My girlfriend and I have an amazing relationship. We had started as FWB and after a few weeks it evolved after she fell for me. And in return I fell for her. Our relationship has always been non monogamous. She sometimes expresses though that she is worried that this life style isn’t for me.

Currently, she has options while I do not. But this isn’t about that. What I am having difficulties explaining is, the things that interest me, she is not interested in doing with me. Mainly swinging or a hotel take over. She is interested in swinging herself, but not with me. Her fear is that I will either have sex with her without the love, or that I will make love to another woman and dilute what we have together. I have tried to reassure her, but I had to just reach a point where I understood it was a boundary, and I respect her feelings on it.

She wants me to find someone. But she wants to do everything separately.

Has anyone here dealt with this?

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