Swinging Single

Welcome to the Swinging Single forum! This forum is for this discussion of being in the swinging lifestyle as either a single male or female.

My third time at a club and I usually have the pleasure of being with single men. This time a wife I’m acquainted with came up to me and asked me to play with her and her husband. I decided I would let them lead the way and they were fantastic, especially the wife! I had a blast, this is my celebratory post that I am definitely going to do it again in the near future. I am curious about other singles’ experiences, good or bad, and including those who have had long term success with a couple. What did the dynamic look like for you and how often did you meet up etc?

I'm bi, female, and in my mid-20s. I'm currently not in the position for a "regular" relationship for a lot of reasons- Being super busy with grad school, some quirks of preferences and appearance, some hard nos that occur in a lot of spontaneous ONSs. But I do have physical needs like anyone else. I get a lot of unicorn hunters on dating apps, and while I wouldn't like to be part of a romantic triad, threesomes are super appealing to me and I like the combination of no-strings-attached but well-negotiated you seem to be able to get if you use your head a bit. I think my ideal scenario is having respectful play partners without romantic commitment. Provided I'm good with …

Hi so I’m a single guy and I liked the idea of being a 3rd member to a couple. I’m young and fit and energetic but I don’t know how to approach a couple or recognize a couple that swings. I go to bars and see a lot of couples. How do I tell they are swingers and if it’s okay to flirt and be talking to them?

Do unicorns feelings matter to any couples who are on the hunt? I’m very novice to the lifestyle and am not looking to join a relationship but am looking to make some friends with the same interests. And trust me, I get that most couples are just looking for a good time and so am I! I feel I have the right mind set when it comes to the relationship I have been invited to get a closer look at. I don’t try to over step boundaries so my goal is to make a friend or two out of it as well as enjoy myself sexually. All that to say, my first experience has me perplexed. Met through him and he sent her my info and she and I began the chat. We met up for dinner and seem to hit it o…

I’m a 27 y/o male, and honestly I just like to have fun. To make a long story short I found out about this LS through a couple I met at a bar that I’m really friends with. I didn’t necessarily get into it strictly for sex, BUT if it happens that’s cool. I just like meeting people, and experiencing new things. I’ve made a few friends, but my work schedule keeps me from attending events, so tonight will be my second. The first was fun I met a lot of people. I didn’t expect anything, but the opportunity did present itself where I wasn’t & still not ready to do anything at these events, but after about 2 hours I began to ask myself “What do I really want from these partie…

My girlfriend and I have an amazing relationship. We had started as FWB and after a few weeks it evolved after she fell for me. And in return I fell for her. Our relationship has always been non monogamous. She sometimes expresses though that she is worried that this life style isn’t for me. Currently, she has options while I do not. But this isn’t about that. What I am having difficulties explaining is, the things that interest me, she is not interested in doing with me. Mainly swinging or a hotel take over. She is interested in swinging herself, but not with me. Her fear is that I will either have sex with her without the love, or that I will make love to another woman …

I’m (34F) new to the LS as a single female and I’m getting so much interest on member sites I’m sort of worried about going to the club. How do I turn people down quickly and easy? I’m already expecting people will be respectful from my experience so far, but I would rather not lose potential friends bc my rejection was too curt.

Hi! I'm single and decided to finally dive into the lifestyle. I'm fairly new... one full swing, been to a few parties, and have a couple of boyfriends. Married men in open relationships in which I play and have developed friendships with (I've even become friends with the wives). However, I'm starting to feel a way because these men have taken a great interest in me. I by no means, want to overstep my boundaries. Definitely not my intentions. But one couple is open to becoming poly, if I want, because the husband has developed strong feelings for me. The other husband has also developed strong feelings for me when it was only supposed to be fun - I go with him to parties…

I am going to a swingers club for the first time as a single woman. What green flags / red flags do I need to know?

Newish unicorn mainly only individual meets. Got invited to a house party with about 20 people this weekend. 4 couples have already reached out wanting to meet/play. How’s the best way to navigate this when I get there?

I have been giving some serious consideration to being a unicorn, but I’m nervous to meet with couples as a single woman. I would love some sample questions that have worked well for people in the past to ask couples when talking with them. I’m looking to try to avoid couples where there is going to be drama because the wife/husband was pressured into it, or avoid couples that don’t care about my safety etc. Examples: “What is your relationship dynamic?” “What experience do you have?” “What is off limits?” What are your favorite questions for couples?

Hi all! I’ve been curious about swinging, MMF, and simply watching for a while now. But it’s one of those things where I’ve always been hesitant to bring it up to my past girlfriends because I feel like you can’t close that door once you’ve opened it, and you can’t know if it’s really for you until you’ve tried it… (maybe I’m wrong?) Anyway, would you recommend a single guy try a club? Look for a couple online? To the extent it matters, I’m 31, tall, clean cut, white, very fit, suit and tie professional, and don’t mind paying if clubs charge for single men. I think I would have a good chance if the clubs are “looks based.” It just seems like the few I’ve seen come up on g…