New To Swinging

Welcome to the New To Swinging forum! This forum is for everyone who is new to swinging to ask question and get answers from more experienced swingers, or just to share your experiences starting out.

My husband and I decided to go to a swingers club for the first time. We have been fantasizing about this topic for quite some time and now we have finally decided to do it. We want to experience this with another man. I would like to ask those who already have experience of visiting such places, how to choose the right partner for sex, how to tell a person that we want to have sex with him and how to refuse people if suddenly there will be no interest.

We're a little frustrated. We are new to this and looking for newbie friendly experiences and interactions. We were supposed to attend our first LS party last month, which was cancelled for unknown reasons, and we haven't heard from the host since. We were invited to another party, for this week, which was also just cancelled. We're just kind of wondering if parties getting cancelled and hosts going MIA is a normal thing? Or if this is just kind of a rare/coincidental thing? What's your thought/experience?

New to this and want to start tryin to meet new couples and I'm a Lil socially awkward. My husband is 33 I'm 42.

New to swinging but have experienced a few 3somes but running into this situation and would love some insight I am curious why a man with a petite, fit wife would be interested in a midsize PAWG like myself😅? My husband is muscular, and I’ve personally only dated men of color, as they tend to love my body type. I’m tall, curvy with a nice waist, big ass/legs, and smaller tits, but my body type isn’t super common in my area. I’ve had interest from couples, but I feel a bit intimidated since their wives are usually petite, fit with amazing tits. I worry that the men might ultimately be turned off by my size or cellulite, I should add they have all been white so far. In the …

Me and my girlfriend are trying to get into the lifestyle however she is a BBW and I’m curious has anybody come across a lot of BBW’s in swingers clubs

Ok question time. Looking for real answers only please. How nervous were you the first play time? And was there anything that help?

In places like swinger resorts or other places where public nudity and/or sexual acts are permitted is it considered ok to look, stare, compliment, or touch yourself to the sight of others? My wife and I went to a swingers club once and there were a handful of people having sex or getting oral. We glanced over at these couples or watched out of the corner of our eyes trying not to look creepy, but we both wanted look or even get closer. We're not ready to join, but we do like to watch, just not sure of the protocol.

My wife and I pretty much grew up in a high control religious group and after over two decades of being married we decided to leave the group a couple of years ago. Losing a big part of what we thought we were was difficult and there was some questioning about us even being together. Was it just because of the cult? Anyways we thought long and hard about our relationship and what we wanted from it and because we never had the chance to experiment with sex, not even as teenagers, we decided that we would try out the lifestyle and do our experimentation together as a couple. Anyways, it’s quite a stretch to go from religious, strictly monogamous to this new step in our live…

We are a young couple recently looking into exploring the LS. We have talked about going to a club but aren’t sure how intimidating it will be. I’m sure this is location specific but have other couples felt pressure when going to a club and has it seemed intimidating? TIA

My husband and I have been fantasizing and dirty talking in bed about swinging and now we're finally ready to actually do it. I would love to hear any advice anyone has about our first time or anything in general. Thanks!

Me (31F) and my husband (30M) have been talking/fantasizing about including another person in our sex life for about a year now. It is something we love to think about but have no idea how to make it a reality. I've heard about couples using certain apps and websites but I am looking for some honest takes/opinions about what has worked best for other couples who have already done this sort of thing. Just a bit of background, I am active duty and my husband is a stay at home dad. We have 5 kids and just had our fifth in November. My husband is finally coming to terms with his own sexuality and has concluded he is bisexual (which is a huge turn on for me). He would love for…

Hey yall! Wife and I are planning our first MFM in a couple weeks and are struggling with figuring out the logistics of a threesome. For context, it is happening at our home and my wife has been talking to the guy for a couple months and has met him in person. A couple of the logistic questions we have are: How do we get the play started when he shows up in a way that isn’t forced or awkward? Does he just show up and we get straight to it? What happens when everyone is finished? How would we know it’s time for him to leave? How would we politely signal or tell him to leave? lol Honestly the logistics have given us more anxiety than actually doing the threesome lol We appr…

My gf and I, both in our 60's are wondering what web sights are helpful for finding like minded people. We are new to the game and are looking for assistance. Tia