Swingers Discussion

My BF/Dom and I played with a couple at a party for the first time last month. Since then, I've texted with the lady as friends and we friended the couple on Fetlife with the goal of doing it again. After seeing some off-putting posts on the guy's profile, my bf doesn't want the guy playing with me. They're a perfectly nice couple, just into some things that we're not comfortable with. We're likely going to run into them at a party this weekend and I'm not sure how to politely reject them... while potentially hooking up with another couple at the party. How do you politely reject someone you've already played with?

We went to parties all the time for about four years and have just dabbled since then. 10+ years since we started. We've been infrequent fliers since covid. It doesn't appear that guys in our area have upped their game but maybe we're just stuck in this pocket of banjo music hell. Overall, how do we feel about the grooming, fitness and overall effort of guys in the LS today compared to pre-covid? My wife found maybe 1 in 20 guys attractive. We might jump fully back in and are okay traveling if the guys have upskilled. Thanks again!

We’ve been discussing DVP with some friends and while doing some research we’ve found a lot of people love it but haven’t found much in the way of people who tried and failed or tried and didn’t like it. Wondering what stories you have. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Also, any and all advice is appreciated! My husband is average length (6”) and slightly above average girth while her husband is above average length (7”) and average girth. Both of the guys are trying to figure out the logistics of how the hell you fit both dicks in at the same time. Thanks!

We're having a house party coming up (about 50ish people expected) and we want to try a game of lap dance musical chairs. Anyone done anything similar? Tips on execution of said idea? We were thinking one round of girls dancing, then another with guys doing the dancing, but I feel like we’re missing something that could make it a more fun way to break the ice. Thoughts? Thanks in advance!

When you first meet new people in the lifestyle, either couples or singles, what are some behaviors or attitudes that immediately make you say that "this isn't going to work"?

My wife and I have been having open and honest conversations about exploring MFM. We’re still in the stage of helping her feel comfortable and confident with the idea. We’ve been taking it slow, having lots of discussions about boundaries, trust, and keeping the focus on us. For those who’ve been through this or are considering it what actually helped her feel more at ease? Were there certain conversations, experiences, or even playful ways of easing into it that made a difference? We’re being thoughtful about this and want to make sure it’s something that brings us closer, not adds stress. Would love to hear from those who’ve navigated this stage. Thanks!

I am a 37F and my boyfriend is a 27M. He was heavily involved in the swingers lifestyle prior to our relationship. I am interested in exploring it more but I have my reservations and insecurities. My boyfriend doesn't like eating pussy. He's done it maybe 5 times in our 2 year relationship. Every time he brings up the swingers lifestyle I almost laugh. How am I supposed to embark on a MFF threesome, because it turns him on and excites him, and I'm supposed to eat pussy for his enjoyment, but he won't eat mine? I'm more so interested in a MMF threesome at this point unless he can step up the foreplay and pussy eating. In all my days I have never come across a man who hates…

If you could choose any celebrity to swing with, who would it be?

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