Swingers Discussion

Welcome to the Swingers Discussion forum. This forum is for the discussion of everything to do with swinging that doesn't fit into one of our other categories.

We had a SLS membership a few years ago. It was very slow and infuriating to use. A lot of people we knew left SLS on the same note. We stopped our subscription (but kept our free account open). I see their website has improved. We are in New Jersey. Are people finding SLS to be a good resource to meet people as of 2025? Please share your experiences especially those in North Jersey/New Jersey?

With so many different interests like same/separate room, threesomes, hotwife, full/soft swap, what’s your ideal scenario or dynamic for which you are always in and looking forward for next such experience? What makes this experience so wonderful?

I want to word this carefully to avoid sounding superficial or full of myself, but a recent observation from some close friends got me thinking, and I’m curious to hear others’ perspectives. We have a couple we’re very close to who are more active in the LS than we are. They’re a very good-looking couple and typically seek out other similarly attractive couples. However, I’ve noticed that when the opportunity arises to meet a single female, they seem much more willing, even if she doesn’t match the same "level" of attractiveness as the couples they usually pursue. I understand that unicorn hunting can be more challenging—so for those of you who do it, do you find that you…

How big of a deal is your playmates age to you? 19 yrs old couple or 50yrs old couple? Have you had encounters with 20yr old couples. We have. 20 and 50+.

There's a couple my husband and I have swapped with a few times (we have other couples as well) - from what I am understanding from my husband is that he isn't really attracted to the wife and "took one for the team" because I really liked the husband. I wasn't aware of this and now I don't know how to proceed. We really get along with them and like them a lot. But how can we meet up with them ever again when my husband doesn't want to have sex and I do.

You can only list one (save some for the others) Ours is emojis over the faces in pictures and just the use of them in photos overall. Especially when they are so large that all you see is clothes. What the point of the photo at all? You’ve shown us nothing

So my wife (28F) and I(28M) have been together for over a decade. Over our time together, she would comment/praise other women's appearance. I never thought much of it. About 5-6 years ago, we were drinking and she said, "if I was drunk enough, I'd go intrigued. We didn't really bring it back up for some years. Cut to two months ago, she made the same comment. So I said, "okay, do it." She was shocked and in disbelief. I told her, "I don't have a problem with you having a good time with another woman." She then proceeded to elaborate on her fantasies involving a woman. We're actively searching for a woman willing to partake in this experience with her. I'm incredibly turn…

So we live kind of out there, away from things. I was curious if it is worth it to drive +4hrs to a club and get a hotel room for the night? We're kind of on a tight budget but can manage, and have never been to a club before. Would love some insight on people who go frequently. We're just on the fence atm. We're big introverts, so It's like we're happy not to go and excited to go at the same time.

My BF/Dom and I played with a couple at a party for the first time last month. Since then, I've texted with the lady as friends and we friended the couple on Fetlife with the goal of doing it again. After seeing some off-putting posts on the guy's profile, my bf doesn't want the guy playing with me. They're a perfectly nice couple, just into some things that we're not comfortable with. We're likely going to run into them at a party this weekend and I'm not sure how to politely reject them... while potentially hooking up with another couple at the party. How do you politely reject someone you've already played with?

I’m curious how many experienced swingers have a hall pass when one of you is traveling? My wife and I are exploring that setup. I travel quite a bit. I can play solo when I’m out of town and she can play solo back at home when I’m on the road. That is in addition to our standard schedule of couple swaps when we are in town together. Any good or bad stories or lessons learned from these experiences? I’m traveling this week, she’s playing tonight with a single guy we’ve done MFM’s with before. A few weeks ago, I played solo with a hotwife. So far so good. The one struggle we’ve had is reconnection. We try to schedule play sessions as close to the end of the travel week as …

We went to parties all the time for about four years and have just dabbled since then. 10+ years since we started. We've been infrequent fliers since covid. It doesn't appear that guys in our area have upped their game but maybe we're just stuck in this pocket of banjo music hell. Overall, how do we feel about the grooming, fitness and overall effort of guys in the LS today compared to pre-covid? My wife found maybe 1 in 20 guys attractive. We might jump fully back in and are okay traveling if the guys have upskilled. Thanks again!

We’ve been discussing DVP with some friends and while doing some research we’ve found a lot of people love it but haven’t found much in the way of people who tried and failed or tried and didn’t like it. Wondering what stories you have. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Also, any and all advice is appreciated! My husband is average length (6”) and slightly above average girth while her husband is above average length (7”) and average girth. Both of the guys are trying to figure out the logistics of how the hell you fit both dicks in at the same time. Thanks!

We're having a house party coming up (about 50ish people expected) and we want to try a game of lap dance musical chairs. Anyone done anything similar? Tips on execution of said idea? We were thinking one round of girls dancing, then another with guys doing the dancing, but I feel like we’re missing something that could make it a more fun way to break the ice. Thoughts? Thanks in advance!

I try to keep everything organized while we strip down to play so I have a habit to stuff my socks in my pants pocket. If I wear dark underwear, I would also shove them into my pants pocket. If my wife wears panties for the evening, I would also secure them in my pants pocket. However, the other weekend, I lost my pants, belt and my socks! 🤷‍♂️ Fortunately, that evening, I wore bright colored underwear and my wife didn't wear anything so I still had my underwear to wear leaving the club. 😂